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We have been dealing with bullying on our blog lately! people who were here from the beginning leaving or thinking about it because of the actions of trolls. Who are these people who bully ? Are they really adam fans and nasty people at the same time ? How can they be so two faced insulting Adam and then calling themselves part of our Glamily. Are they kids, they seem about middle school age with filthy minds and mouths. or are they 30-40-50 years old with a case of arrested development? They represent everything adam works to end.

How does bullying make them feel? Superior, smart or rotten inside? Adam went to New York to receive an award for pulling together - unity and got shredded by trolls on this site accusing him of horrible behavior. What a shameful thing.

Probably many reasons for bullying, but for sure it means they are filled inside with ugliness.

I will have my dvr set too.

Thanks for this update...Feb. 9th it is!

CT

If we feed the trolls they accomplished what they set out for and come back again. It would be hard to not respond to them but this has to be done. So they no longer get their cheap thrill.

Trolls will be trolls no matter what. This what they do. Before the Internet many wore white sheets to gain attention.

I'm not responding to trolls. Hope the rest of you will join me. It's the only way they will eventually go away.

Talking about trolls all the time just gives them the opportunity to pop up again! so ignore and scroll!

Thanks for the heads-up for this, DVR set and ready.

NKlovesAdam

Love Song of a Troll...............

"Adam's out of town, he left behind the Finn.
Adam's on a tear, lots of chance to sin.
He's in another club, guys are crowding all around.
Adam is a player, he's really quite a hound.
He's letting his smoky made up eyes,
Go sweeping over all the eager
guys.
He's still wanting Kesha
He's bi - more or less-a.
He's cheating on his bofriend, I
know for a fact.
He's not even hiding it, that shows a lack of tact.
Did you see how he was smiling
at that pretty guy?
If Sauli hears about it. Adam will
just lie.
I heard that Tommy's come to town,
Hey, why you giving me that frown?
I know Adam misses
All those Glam Nation kisses.
Adam just can't help it,
he's an awful flirt,
So glad I got my tickets for
this concert. "

"OMG, here he comes, out of my way
you runt,
Let me through, I have to be
up front!"
"Adam, Adam, over here, oh I think I'm gonna die,
Did you see how he looked me
right straight in the eye?"
"Adam I love you, can I have a
hug and photo too?"
"Adam, I think you're the best,
I really truly do!"
"Adam, catch the tee shirt, sign
it for me if you can,
"Oh Adam....I'm your biggest fan!"
...................................

Now the question is, can hypocrisy and fandom live in the same skin?
Apparently so, though how I don't know. Do trolls consider themselves bullies, do they see as @10:24 AM said "they are filled inside with ugliness." ? Probably not. Fighting back doesn't work, ignoring doesn't work, it's been tried for 3 years. The last week was truly awful.....I think our only hope is that they will grow up and out of the need to spread their creed of distastful remarks on a blog that was created for our entertainment, discussion and appreciation of a young man we find exceptional.Whatever happens..

I ain't leaving!..........JAK

@JAK
Love your poem!!! ....I've never been any good at writing something like that my poetry is always dark.... U pose a very good question .... I will tell ubi became very upset last week... someone was telling one of our regular posters that they should do this or that when they post.... I could tell from the person 's answer it upset them.... I tried to be supportive and tell them it's ok to be your self... express your self how u want... The original poster came back to tell me ... That when someone shows u how to improve its your responsibility to do so ... I have a great de of therapy that attitude brought back many old memories I would like to forget .... I almost left.... but then I remembered what I learned in therapy... I can change other people's actions only my reaction ... and the best way to handles things is to leave it by the steam don't carry it around.... So I left it by the stream .....not going anywhere either .... Rose petal .... sooty in advance for typo in a jury no time to proof

JAK, this site hasn't been ignoring trolls and you just wrote them a poem!

To be clear I Wasn't saying anyone was a troll or for what they told mr just that it bothered me ....rose petal .... and I guess that should be cant change anybody else 's action ...again sorry for typo ...at work on iPhone

JAK here...the first post on this thread questioned can a person be a fan of Adam and two faced and enjoy insulting him at the same time. How can that be? And yet I imagine those very trolls fawn over Adam at concerts and meet and greets. WHY? Do they praise him for his It Gets Better video contribution and bully people in their life? I thought about this last week with all the trash talking about Adam's week in New York. A great week for him, an award, a stellar performance opportunity, a chance to reunite with friends of long standing....all good things most of us were happy to share by video and photo.Why would some people want to tear that experience up?
Especially if they are regulars on this site of all things Adam. I don't think trolls stumble on this site by accident, I think they are here all the time, possibly joining in our enthusiasms on occasion but then lashing out with distortions and spiteful remarks.
The idea of the poem came to me as if holding up a mirror so those people could see themselves...is it a case of "you always hurt the one you love?"
I don't understand why they do it, do they? Is it a love-hate situation? Maybe I was hoping they would question their action themselves.

It's not a poem of praise it's a poem asking Why?

There are many commentors with the grit to just "step over" hateful remarks and ignore them, good for them, but I haven't seen a lessening of the remarks, instead they seem to be growing like weeds thru the cracks on the sidewalk.

I will be interested to see what ET has to say on their Feb 9th program....this behavior is widespread not just a solo act on 24/7.

Rose pedal I believe it was me you took up for! It did hurt to be picked on like that, same person has picked me and bullied me more than once! They have no right to tell me or you what to do! How to write your or my posts as long as they are possitive what so ever! Many people write long posts here, sometime you can express your thoughts quickly, and some time not! They were not trying to improve me they were saying everything should be done their way. It hurt but I now realize these people who do not ever sign, or who saying things to make us feel smaller than them! They are bullies and cowards and by you taking up for me it showed you were a far bigger person than them. You were that person that sat with that kid sitting alone at the lunch table. I think you know what I mean by that! You were a friend to me and I appreciate it, always. They were not trying to improve me they were bulling both of us,I think like Adam say's we can try to rise above it, can't promise I will do that tho, will try! Thank you for being my friend dear! Sue

It's an awful poem if you ask me. Sorry JAK. I wouldn't put it past the A-Crays to tweet it in a twitlonger. Horrible things to say about Adam. How is it holding a mirror up to them when they say those things all the time and enjoy saying them.

To make this story and sentiment into a catchy verse? Awful. What if Adam sees this? What if Perez Hilton does.

You just made their day, JAK

PH will make bad out if the best of anything, notice no mention of Adam's unity award! He is scum no one should worry about what that creature think's! I believe most of Hollywood hates him, sure there are a few he still useful too, not many! Sue

Love the poem, JAK. I understand what you were trying to do with it. Trolls are mean on purpose, but are also often totally un-selfaware of their real image. They wind up having the totally opposite impact that they intended. They are foolish and mean, and YES, are strangely on both sides of "fan passion." They love him, they hate him, they love him, they hate him... etc.

Worst of all, they often manage to ruin good threads of fun and sharing by throwing in a wild zinger of idiocy. I don't see a solution. Just keep ignoring, I guess.

DRG

Whatever!!!:)

JAK you are really good with it Rock on dear!!:)

About the trolls, I love them and they can stay here as long as they want because the Glamberts are real and the trolls needed us so much indeed!!! He!He! Welcome them until they stop mocking themselves he!he!

Canadian

I love your poem JAK, and can totally see where you were coming from.
I must admit that 24/7 used to be my first port of call for all things Adam...not any longer though, its just not the fun place it used to be. I will not abandon it entirely though, would miss, people like JAK, rosebetal, brownie, MGF, funbunn and many others like them too much:)

Thanks Sue glamberts to the end...maybe someday I'll tell you about my crazy famliy and why it bothered me so much...peace light and love...rose petal

@JAK

I think that people who make negative comments or criticize others do it to feel better about themselves. They are usually people who are hurting so they lash out at others. This happens often with children and young people and unfortunately some people never grow out of this kind of behaviour. As we all know bullies were often bullied themselves.

GMT

my two cents... completely ignore!!!! Don't them, Don't fuel them, Dont be hurtful to them or acknowledge them at all. Ignore.

the hateful posters/commentors I mean.

Rose Pedal, I think maybe we are Kendrick spirits, my child hood was some kind of crazy into adult hood!ot of hurt still inside of me! Sounds like you too! Hope some day we can talk about it in some way! Sue

@ GMT.

I think you and JAK are on the same track
She is trying to figure out why these hurting people want to hurt someone they care for. They are like a child striking out and just making things worse. You know there are some who accuse the people who use tags of being a closed clique, like the popular kids in school. I don't use a tag because I promised my husband I wouldn't! He does not trust the security of the Internet and did not want me to get a computer, so to ease his mind I don't I.D myself anywhere. Lol.
but I'm thinking some of these unhappy rude people fell left out. which is not necessary because the ones who tag are always trying to get people to choose a tag so it makes personal chatting easier. They are inclusive not exclusive. The more in the so called clique the better. The Glamily.

2:29 pm. You don't get it, why would tese people want anyone to see their schizo behavior? You think they would want to spread around how badly they treat adam?
I don't think it would come as a surprise to Adam that some of his fans are Cuckoo. He gets plenty crap on twitter and has read dreadful comments about himself. I think he wold get the purpose of this poem. It is irony.

This typed very poorly since I have to use a magnifying glass to see keyboard but it doesn't help much.
I don't think JAK wrote the poem for humor as she usually dos, she wrote it to make a point.
Why do these people want to be hurting others?

@JAK - Your poem made good sense to me! Sometimes I think some "fans" start to feel a sense of entitlement. Just because you vote for Adam in a poll or even go to a concert does not mean you own Adam and can judge his every move. After all Adam is a grown man and has a private life just like we all do. We know who the real fans are on this site. Please let's not turn on each other and let the ones who bully win...nancdruuu2

As this thread is about bullies,
I think the biggest bully on this site is Lam-my. She writes sweet things then uses the word "but", informative things about all the places she's lived and the languages she speaks, explains the words she uses as if we were three year olds. When called out on it, she jumps like a shark and bites big. I think she was bullied or controlled as a child and is now using her intellect to bully others. It's Sad.

Tina

I'm pretty sure that all of us have been victims of some negative/nasty comments at some point in our lives and our ability to deal with such comments depends on our own state of mind at the time. If you have come to accept yourself and like the person you are then the power of these hurtful comments do not have a lasting effect especially when one realizes that there is no basis for them. Adam has grown up to be an emotionally mature and positive young man and therefore he will not be seriously effects by negative comments about him. He is also bright enough to understand what is behind such comments.

GMT

This is my first post on this blog. I feel compelled to comment because of statements such as 10:09 AM’s , “trolls on this site accusing him of horrible behavior”. Are we talking about the accusation that Adam was kissing other men in a bar??

I don’t know whether or not Adam has kissed other men since he and Sauli entered into a committed relationship. But if he has, SO WHAT? Do you really think that kissing other men is an automatic violation of a monogamous relationship. Has your husband never kissed other women?

Adam’s friends are very affectionate and kissy.

It is entirely possible that Adam did kiss some men in bars. To call that “horrible behavior” would be quite an insult to Adam.

Only Sauli and Adam know what is a violation of their particular set of limits.

I made few mistakes on 4.15, spelling other wise! Sue

About bullies in this site, I absolutely agree with @Tina that there is no other but Lam-my as the biggest bully of them all here to anyone who disagrees with her . . . She is such a paranoid troublemaker to anyone who has a different view than her . . . She never concedes and will always have the last word and relentless in her being argumentative . . . Again, I agree with @Tina she must have been bullied because she is a provocateur and always has a need to prove herself . . . Dark Knight

oh boy the horse sh*t had to start flying sooner or later.

I CANNOT believe what I am reading here!!!!! I just came back to get some updates about ADAM ... AND ... the BS is still flying in all directions!!! WHAT???? has happened to this fansite & WHY??? do the admins. allow it to continue???? WHY??? aren't these 'comments' DELETED instead of PRINTED??? ADAM is a spokesman for ANTI-bullying & it is allowed to run RAMPANT on his fansite!!! WHY???

tess4ADAM(LAMBERT Outlaw)

First of all, thanks @JAK for your poem. Wise and very much to the point, as always.

I can scroll past the "trolls" (most of them anyway), those who jump into the 24/7 blog just to leave silly (pretty harmless...mostly junior high/middle school stuff..), and sometimes ugly, truly ugly, remarks about Adam, Sauli, etc... Once in awhile I really just can't resist replying. Especially if what is said is absolutely wrong or particularly mean-spirited.

The "bullies" are a different group for the most part, in my opinion. They try to tell others how to think, what to say, what not to say etc. I've been called that myself more than once recently, in fact quite severely and repeatedly a couple of days ago. :((( I hope its not true. It really knocks the wind out of one's sails, so to speak. The "Trolls" that have been showing up here in increasing numbers lately might make me less inclined to come here and comment, as I get tired of seeing the BS, but the bullies can be worse. And sometimes I think, to paraphrase a famous saying: "What would Adam do?". So there are times when "scrolling by" doesn't work for me. Depends on the situation. The trolls I can ignore I suppose, the bullies could chase us away. I have a phrase that I like to use once in awhile, when it particularly applies: "Silence is NOT Golden Sometimes.."...

Not commenting on who is or isn't a bully..just hoping Adam's powerful message of anti-bullying is not lost on those who come here, or elsewhere in the worldwide fandom. Respect is key. Adam is one VERY special guy. I have major and utter respect for him. Some have accused me of supporting everything he does. I support & celebrate his right to be himself. His goals, his orientation, his boyfriend, his music, etc.. get enough crap thrown at him in other places, I'm not going to add to it here or anywhere. I think he's doing fabulously...and IS fabulous. I have absolutely no suggestions for him, other than to live his life the way he sees fit, to love those he choses to love, to wish that he be loved and cherished by his friends, family, and his sweet Sauli. And that he is able always to do what he loves to do...sing and entertain. That's it....

Hugs to all who come here to 24/7 with an open mind and a generous heart.

I haven`t write here for a while. But I have been worried about their relationship sometimes. I am not a troll or troublemaker. I know there are people who are. And what their purpose is I don`t know or unterstand. But sometimes I have write my feelings about A and S. I love them together and these nasty rumours get to me sometimes. I might have said things that someone find trollish or things that I don`t know anaything. I am sorry if I have said things that are nasty to other.. That haven`t been my intension at all!! I respeact you all and I hope things here would be nice again!

Ladies!
You don't need bullies from outside the forum, some of them live amongst you!!! What this Tina person wrote, she and his/her alter ego(kind of scary, don't you think, to pretend you're somebody else!)is bullying pure and simple, not to mention it only proved a bit of xenophobia and lots and lots of immaturity and frustration!
Dear Tina and your alter ego, I officially announce you that I'm not going to abandon this forum and I hope Lam-my won't either, only because somebody is not capable to have an argumentative discussion!

Pan,
Why not try to go back a few pages dated 1st of February entitled, "Nightbird’s Obsession’s Version of Adam Lambert’s Performances at We Are Family’s Fundation Gala" so you know what glitzylady is talking about and so you may understand why these posts on this thread about bullies here?

The trolls and bullies are just attention seekers empowered by anonimity and are socially maladjusted, cruel, thoughtless individuals with low self esteem. They have to tear down others to make themselves feel important and noticed. Their comments and bullying behavior doesn't diminish the celebrity, but actually reflects on their undesirable, negative character and ignorance. Who in their right mind would give them any credibility or respect? They're immature,shallow individuals that should be ignored and not published. The bullies that physically harm others should pay legal consequences, be expelled from school and made to be phychologically evaluated and treated. Bystanders need to step up and not tolerate anyone being abused, validating the abuser. THe teen suicides are heartbreaking and yet these souless, heartless bullies continue to spread their hate and destruction. They work extremely hard to be so disliked and only further isolate themselves. Didn't mean to go on, I just am disappointed at such hate filled people trying to hurt others. It's so senseless and counter productive. Adam is a beautiful spirit that tries his best to help others spreading light and love. That will always triumph.

@HK fan, You are also one of the long term posters that I've always admired and look forward to seeing, along with so many others. I have to take a break sometimes from the time wasting, manipulative bs, but always come back for Adam updates and for the fun, positive and many intelligent, thought provoking comments, maybe differing from mine at times and giving me another perspective. That is what I've always enjoyed about this site. I never enjoy deliberate, mean spirited, disrespectful attacks and try to ignore the button pushers, but have to speak up at times when it gets really tiresome. You can't let "one rotten apple spoil the batch."

So many regular people who come to this site do their best to criticise bullies or trolls, this by it's very nature keeps feeding into the negativity. Regular posters should not have more say than other's, and there is nothing worse than people who comment in such a self righteous way while failing to see their own mistakes with constant criticism of others. People need to learn to ignore negative comments and scroll on by, it's not hard to do, if you insist on buying into negativity then you are just as bad as the trolls and troublemakers because all you are doing is adding fuel to the fire.

@Tina/Black Knight, I have to disagree with your personal remarks about Lam-my who has been a long time contributer to this site. We are a diverse bunch from many different countries, cultures, education and languages. I love the diversity and hope we can all respect our diversity and differences without insulting or hurting each other because of misunderstanding. We are not here to judge one another, but to celebrate and share all things Adam with good intentions. What a great opportunity for us to welcome people all over the world that we would never meet in our personal life. It has enriched my life and broadend it. It's a place where we can be silly and flail over Adam when our family and friends may think we've lost our minds. We can have fun and escape our responsibilities and chaallenges for awhile bathing in Adam's positive light and talent. He's trying to make the world a better place. I think we should try and do the same. Peace, y'all. :)

Interesting to note that Adam himself said recently that people need to stop concentrating on bullies and concentrate on rising above negative comments and behaviour. Adam is very wise with his remarks and the same should apply on this site, rather than criticising bullies learn to rise above them. Even talking about bullies is in it'self giving them the attention they desire. Exercising some self discipline and scrolling past negative comments is the only way, it is possible even if it means stepping away from your computer until you can come back to it with a more positive frame of mind.

Anonymous 12:06AM
Yes, the tone of the discussion escalated to a useless, unproductive tension between, paradoxically, two old, real, loyal fans.
Would you , Lam-my, have hated me if I had told you that I wouldn't use the 2 Brians in the same sentence, indirectly comparing a common musician/arranger to a genius musician/arranger? Surely not, they are only opposite opinions and we know we both adore Adam (as you and glitzy do).
Taking sides depending on prejudices,likes or dislikes not on the opinion expressed is another story. I think it's the shortest, straightest way to the thing I hate most on forums and blogs, the cliques.

@funbunn
Thanks for the kind shout out:)

Congratulations to one and all from ......JAK

One of our few threads that stayed on topic all the way thru...so far!

To the Anon comment waaaay up thread that my poem was awful. Okay...thank you for stating your opinion in a polite manner. To use Adam's words...."some people like it, some people don't." That's fair.

I agree, it was not a sterling example of an attempt at poetical satire. It's a new field for me and my poems are amateurish and awkward at best, but, I do believe that satire is a valid way of trying to make a moral change thru critical humor.

Why else do we respond to comments made during comic talk show hosts monologues.....or laugh and get the "point" when we see a political cartoon?

Just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down?

JAK
U r one of a kind.... I love it....rose petal

@ rose petal.....JAK here....
Thank you. Don't you wish sometime we could really meet some of the people we have "met" on this site?
There would be quite a list I'd like to chat with in person...you are on that list! I think about you and your husband...<3

@funbunn40
Why not call spade, a spade? . . . Just because Lam-my has been a long time contributor here she gets preferential treatment from the regular clique? . . . And she has the right to bully and pounce on everyone who disagrees with her? And no one has the right to call her out? . . . Lam-my has to learn how to respect others' opinions without being bullied by her . . . Where’s the equality here?